Parenting and Step-Parenting in Blended Families
“My parents divorced over 30 years ago and I am continually effected by what happened back then. In my family we are still arguing about it after all these years. It’s great to finally be bale to talk about it.”
It is estimated that 50% of the families in the U.S. are blended families. Most of us are unprepared for the problems that we must face when families separate and then reorganize as new families. Most of the difficulties have to do with lack of support and unresolved resentments on the part of the children, the biological parents and the step-parents. We often feel bad about ourselves, our children, our partners—current and past. Yet we are yearning for closeness in our own homes.
In this talk, we will look at the common sources of resentment that blended families have to deal with and “normalize” the difficulties by understanding that these problems “come with the step-family territory”.
We will learn and practice several techniques which will be helpful in navigating through the stormy waters of the blended family. We will look at some of the things family members can do to recover hope and work together to turn problems into strengths.